By plucking her petals you do not gather the beauty of the flower.
*Rabindranath Tagore - "Stray Birds"

Too often, we try to find our beauty, our worth in other people. We measure ourselves based on biased eyes and opinions. We look through a veil that is filtered through jealousy, inadequacy, and selfishness. Our perceptions of others and ourselves can't be trusted. We don't see accurately.